
Just asking:
Do you celebrate Valentine’s Day, by surprising your spouse or significant other, with a gift?
The same question might apply to your birthdays.
Sure, a sweet gift is not unwelcome.
But when you’ve been married for more than five decades, to give or not to give is not an issue.

We’ll go out for dinner on these milestone occasions, but an actual gift is not longer part of our lives.
Some time ago, my wife and I decided that saving on ungifting meant we’d be able to splurge on vacations and trips. But the pandemic put a lid on our travels – we had a pair of one-night staycations in the past three years, one in Hilo, one in Waikiki – so we’re aiming for a trip to New York sometime this year.
If and when that happens, it will be a mutual gift we’ll be happy to spend on.
What say you?
Ditto.